Lucky,
Could you share a wiring diagram of how you made the relay install? I have pod fogs that are working fine using AlfaOBD LED settings. However, my neighbor is having the same problem you were having and I'd like to get your relay mod diagram to wire a relay in his system. AlfaOBD did not correct his problem which I'm sure is an overload of the stock ability.
You've done it, I don't want to reinvent it.
Thanks
Edit:
If no diagram, where did you tap into the dash switch wiring and the fog wiring?